Ranty Blubber

I read this quote yesterday, cant give props....
Everytime you judge yourself, you break your own heart.
I've been thinking of how pissed I am that my clothes are too tight. Then I recalled a conversation about how many of us women have spent our entire lives saying... I'm so fat, if only I were thinner, my ass is huge... even when we weren't fat. In essence, if we create our own realities, the mere belief "I'm so fat" has manifested this state of being a four wasn't small enough, an eight wasnt small enough and up and up and down and back up. I am willing to tell myself I love my healthy body now. But that's not all... I realized what an excellent learning experience it is for me (I know I have will power, and determination and all of that), but to learn to get it that my worth is not determined by how cute I look in my jeans, or how much I put out or whatever other wierd crap I had no connection with until this crossed my mind two hours ago. That I am completely whole and loveable cellulite and all. Also, this came to mind because of someone I love complaining about their flabby arms. I noticed that it was less offensive (I used to get offended by skinny people telling me how fat they were), and by them referring to someone's size as though it were a character trait... anyway, it was less offensive and more eye opening that self loathing serves no one and particularly the collective consciousness which would benefit greatly from a bit more kindness on earth. If we cant be kind to ourselves, how can we truly be intimate and honest with others?